Today a guestpost about something that affects all of us, in some way or another
Synopsis
“I don’t know what to say” and “I don’t know what to do” are common responses to a life-threatening diagnosis. Voices of Cancer is here to help.
Every cancer story is different, but there is one commonality: both patients and the people supporting them often struggle to properly articulate their wants and needs through particularly challenging and in many cases, uncharted territory. Lynda Wolters knows firsthand: she was diagnosed with stage 4 terminal mantle cell lymphoma in August of 2016.
Voices of Cancer offers a candid look into the world of a cancer patient, informed by Lynda’s own story and conversations had with dozens of patients weighing in on their needs, wants, and dislikes as they navigate the complex world of diagnosis, treatment, and beyond. With comprehensive and accessible insight from people who’ve been there, Voices of Cancer helps educate, dispel fears, and start positive conversations about what a cancer diagnosis truly means, while shining a light on how best to support a loved one on their own terms.
Guest Post
It has been a few years since I’ve written Voices of Cancer, and while I am currently healthy, I read back through this book and realize what a blessing it was that the universe put this project at my feet. Being diagnosed with cancer and going through the treatment – not so good, but the people; just wow!
I didn’t speak cancer when I was diagnosed, had only had an outsider’s second-hand experience of the dreaded disease and felt more like my boss who when I told him I had cancer he crossed himself and said, “Thank God it’s you and not me.” A lot of people take offense to that statement. Not me. And here’s why.
Cancer was likely the single best life changing event that occurred to me and for me. What I mean by this is, I was never a bad person, never outwardly mean, or malicious, never in trouble (not so much as a speeding ticket), and while I checked all the right boxes (volunteering, showing up on time, earning my way), I did it all because I was expected or obligated to. Cancer gave me the insight of perspective – and that it is mine to choose how I want to show it and live it. I chose to move forward with love and with my truth (meaning I started to set healthy boundaries).
Voices of Cancer was a catalyst of my treatment and my conversations but what the book may not convey is the distinct inner change that occurred when I was diagnosed and then afforded the opportunity to write and share with the world what cancer patients really need and what really drives us mad. (Hint: We don’t want you sympathy.)
I will never say I am glad to have my diagnosis, to know that it is always inside me, incurable, and lurking, but I can say, it was the best thing that ever happened to me.
As you read Voices of Cancer, keep in mind that a few things are certain and one of them is, we all die. With cancer, most of us have some time to digest and reflect, to reach out and have the touch conversations, to make our amends, ask forgiveness, give forgiveness. I would take this route any day as my friends and family know what they mean to me and how I feel about them.




























